At my best college friend’s wedding, a groomsman joked that the bride and groom were very good at honoring “month-aversaries” in Facebook status updates.They’d recognize the anniversary of their first date, first kiss, first “I love you” declaration, engagement, etc., all of which are special but hard to remember for those outside the relationship.I'm the type of girl who seizes every occasion to celebrate something.I have even been to a cat's birthday party that, admittedly, was lame. I bought a few things from Open Sky and went to Target on Cyber Monday (but not Black Friday, because I don’t want to get trampled) to get holiday shopping out of the way, and after glancing at the horrifically violent Legos in the kids’ aisle, I decided to wait on purchasing gifts for my nephews and headed for the greeting cards section.Not only do three family members have birthdays in December, but my new flame and I are celebrating our two month anniversary, so I thought I’d grab him a nice note to accompany the pre-Christmas present I’d picked out.The problem was, there weren’t very many anniversary cards for non-married newbie couples.Everything was categorized under “Anniversary for the wife,” “Anniversary for the husband,” “Anniversary for the parents,” “Happy 20-year wedding anniversary,” etc.
And it doesn’t hurt that Jeremiah makes himself very easy to love. No matter how badly you want to post pictures on Facebook of the flowers he got you, or tweet about the restaurant he brought you to, or instagram a picture of you riding piggy-back, or text your friend about how he’s your soulmate…don’t. If you want him to make you feel special, then start by making him feel special and giving him your undivided time and attention. The day you learn that accepting those things and supporting the other person’s needs and wants is the definition of love, your relationship improves. And if that means she has to sit through 5 football games in a row on a Saturday, then it means a lot to me when she does it with a smile and gets ice for me when I strain my back celebrating a touchdown. They are all secretly high-maintenance when it comes to farting. Women always want to feel like you still want to impress them. And if that means I have to go a month without seeing her because she’s traveling for work, then I won’t let her know I’m sad, I’ll encourage her to work hard and I’ll be patient when it’s hard for her to call.Today is the fourth anniversary of that blind date, and for the past few years we’ve always just called this day “our anniversary.” But last summer we got married and now, as our first wedding anniversary approaches, it’s occurred to us that we can’t keep calling May 5th “our anniversary” if July 24th is “our anniversary” too. We talk about how, by the end of the night, it seemed clear there was … I lived in Chicago at the time; he lived here in New York. But when a special occasion rolls around, we do use it as an excuse to pop open some champagne or go out for dinner.I mean, by definition, an anniversary is something that occurs once a year, so you can’t very well have two of them, can you? Neither of us had any idea how or if we could make such a set-up work, but we knew there was something special between us, and for that night that’s all we needed. I guess our relationship is still young enough — and not yet complicated by the arrival of kids and whatnot — that we enjoy all that.