All of this goes against the teachings of The Rules.
I’ve read “The Rules” (both the original and updated) a few times. I’ve broken every single one of The Rules at times. The women feel like they have no choice but to be proactive, invite the guys over, flaunt what they got, and make sure they are noticed and remembered.
However, although courtship patterns change and vary across cultures, there is quite a conservative pattern for dating and courtship among Latter-day Saints in Western nations.
It is expected that LDS youth will not begin dating until the age of sixteen.
While in the dating stage being a “player” in the game is exactly what you want to be!
Dating is the phase where you pair off and get to know someone better one-on-one.
The ultimate goal is to find someone to call our own, right?
It is important to learn and understand these guidelines if you want to date a Mormon.
When dating someone who is Mormon, make sure to keep an open-mind and to be respectful of their beliefs.
The girl is supposed to remain calm and unassuming when asked, but the girl is so rarely asked that she automatically jumps to the conclusion that the guy must REALLY be interested. In this stage you may not have any real ties to anyone (except for maybe your “wing-man”) and so you look to see if there is anyone who seems to have that certain charisma you’ve been looking for that you can add to your list of “potentials”.
Which in turn keeps the guy from asking out any other girl for fear that by doing so his simple invitation to get ice cream will be misinterpreted as a marriage proposal. Now this is the phase where the dating game becomes broken, because it is so easily misunderstood…or forgotten altogether.