Please don't - I doesn't send a very good message IMO. The first thing I thought when I read this was, I love myself so much that I am well acquainted with Rosy Palms. I've seen lots of guys stressing over not getting dates on POF, and when I look at their profile pic, I can see why. The exact profile pic I put up there, personally I consider to be one of my better ones.
I also put up another good picture where I'm smiling.
Chatting online is undoubtedly a good stepping stone for shy people who want to get better at talking to people.
On our site people frequently chat before meeting in person and this is a very good process but don't imagine that it solves every issue.
Similarly, when dating someone who is reluctant to speak, you might push yourself forward more to suggest topics of discussion and work harder to keep a conversation going, which is something you might not have tried if you were around a very talkative person.
There are many benefits to dating a shy person which can help you in your own process of overcoming shyness.
So small things such as smiling, keeping eye contact, asking questions, using open body language, being interested in what the other person has to say and having opinions (without being overly opinionated of course!
) that you can offer to the conversation are all things to keep in mind.
There are people who prefer the peace and quiet of being alone.So some guys on here say they can message 20 women on a dating site, and get 19 responses.This is extremely foreign to me, and I don't know what you're doing right, but it's almost unfair.I guess the point is, I came here and other places asking what can a super-shy person do, if they want some kind of relationship, and inevitably they all say "dating site." Partly this message is for those people who make this suggestion. Now, I'm thinking my looks are the problem, and I need to start thinking I'm simply unattractive. And by "you" I mean people in general - not you specifically.in the future, when someone is shy or a loser, it's a better idea that you tell these "shy loser guys" just to give up and stare at the wall.. Also, in reference to someone's earlier post about guys suggesting that he bulk up and take a pic with his shirt off... It's either that we don't know how to write a profile, or don't know how to write a message, or that we just take bad profile pics.