If I am fine with my alone time how can I want to form a bond with someone so strongly?Dating means putting yourself out there, meeting new people and putting effort into getting to know those people in the hope of making a solid connection.Whether it’s a work colleague, a family friend or even your yoga instructor, asking if he or she knows someone with whom to fix you up can have a myriad of benefits for your love life.First, these people may already have a person in mind who’d be perfect for you, or they might know someone who knows someone.But in the last year or so the lack deep connection (real – not online) has started to get me a bit weary.Mostly the feelings of loneliness for me are equated with a desire for romantic partner but also other connections are missing, too.Besides, you’re already on your phone anyway, so you might as well use it to connect with a wider range of possible love interests.Remember, if you’re over being single and want to find a real relationship, it’s important that you find new paths to meet others who have this same goal in mind.2. If you want to be proactive in your dating life, you should take the initiative and let others know that you’re looking to meet someone.
To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios: a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good, b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you and you’re seeing what you want to see, c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.
If you’re the type of person who feels drained after being social and you need a lot of alone time to recharge, dating can be absolutely exhausting.
You still do it because you truly don’t want to end up alone, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a struggle sometimes. Since you probably don’t go on dates very often, when you do decide to go on one, it’s a big deal.
Arman, one of our readers from Lithuania for instance, writes: Being a loner is not a problem for me.
I don’t see myself changing out of this way of living anytime soon.